Did You Get The Love That You Wanted From Your Parents?

My father is a traditional Chinese man.

Announcer: Joe Duuuuuuuuuuumars… (there, I just dated myself)

Things didn’t quite work out as planned.

Finally, I stopped trying to fix everyone else and started to work on myself.

My father didn’t love me the way that I wanted him to love me, but he loved me the best way he knew how.

We can choose to repeat a cycle of suffering, or we can choose to change it.

Those words may not mean much to others, but they meant everything to me.

That being said, strange and wonderful things may begin to happen as you do the work to forgive, heal, and learn to love yourself, first.



Asian American therapist specializing in healing codependency, trauma (ancestral, sexual, racial), AAPI thriving, & decolonizing mental health. www.bareivy.com/

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